Mar 26, 2019
Episode 23
TITLE
Narcissism and the Highly Sensitive Person
GUEST
Dr. Natalie Jones
EPISODE OVERVIEW
What is narcissism? What does it look like in relationships (romantic and parental). Gaslighting—what is it? The connection between narcissists and HSPs (partners and parents). The HSP is often the scapegoat in the family. There may be a golden child and the children are pitted against each other. If you have a parent who is narcisstic, the HS child often feels guilty and believes what the narcissistic parent tells them (you’re too sensitive; too selfish; you never call me; you don’t care). Once people understand narcissism, they see that the limitation is in the parent, NOT the HSP. The energy of the room changes when the narcissist enters the room, and leaves the room. You can FEEL the energy shift.
HIGHLIGHTS
What someone who is in a relationship with someone with narcissistic traits may be experiencing
What do narcisstic traits look like?
Narcisstic Personality Disorder is one of the cluster B Personality Disorders, among Antisocial Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder & Histrionic Personality Disorder
Fully Diagnosed Narcisstic Personality Disorder affects approximately 1-2% of the population. These are rare and extreme cases, and they tend to be part of the criminal justice system.
What are red flags in the beginning of a relationship so you can spot someone with narcisstic traits?
What types of people do narcissists tend to look for in partners?
What is gaslighting?
What does it look like if you have a narcisstic parent?
You can feel the energy in the room change when a narcissist enters and when they leave the room. It’s like they pull energy from the room, and everyone feels it.
RESOURCES
Podcasts
A Date With Darkness—Dr. Natalie Jones https://drnataliejones.com/podcast/
Codependency No More—Brian Piser https://www.codependencynomore.com/category/podcast/
Books
Toxic Parents by Susan Forward
Mothers Who Can’t Love by Susan Forward
Unspoken Legacy: Addressing the Impact of Trauma and Addiction within the Family by Claudia Black
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men By Lundy Bancroft
The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide To Changing The Patterns Of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner
The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships by Harriet Lerner
The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self by Harriet Lerner
Confessions of a Narcissist by HG Tudor (there are MANY books by this author)
Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
by Dr. Karyl McBride Ph.D.
Surviving Mama An Adult Daughter’s Guide by Dr. Pamela Everett Thompson
Youtuber Kim Saeed-- https://www.youtube.com/user/LetMeReach
BIO
Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD., LPCC is a Licensed
professional clinical counselor and a post doctoral intern. She
currently has a private practice called Lifetime Counseling and
Consulting in CA where she specializes in working with women who
have been in emotionally and psychologically abusive relationships
with narcissists, as well as with individuals who were previously
incarcerated for various crimes. Dr. Jones has a podcast
called A Date With Darkness Podcast, which specializes in
providing
education and tips from healing from narcissistic
relationships. Dr. Jones received her masters in
clinical counseling psychology from the Chicago School of
Professional Psychology in Chicago, IL, and her doctorate in
clinical psychology from the California School of Professional
Psychology in San Francisco, CA. Dr. Jones has also
written blogs for the Mind Journal and PsychCentral.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice. Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts they have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
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MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com