Sep 26, 2019
TITLE
I Wasn't Invited...there’s more. Sigh….
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Is it ok to NOT want information about a situation that may have felt hurtful to us? If we continue to have strong feelings about it, does it mean we’re not healing? Is it possible to feel uncomfortable, AND be healing at the same time? Do I regret releasing any of these episodes about the situation? What does self-compassion have to do with all of this? No matter what feelings come up, ALL feelings are welcome, and need to be honored!
HIGHLIGHTS
- How to take care of ourselves when we feel uncomfortable and not ready
- Is it ok to not pick up your phone when you feel rattled when someone calls
- I feel like I was 12 years old again. I felt really anxious
- Feelings of shame, and guilt came up for me, and it was uncomfortable
- When something happens and we have a strong emotional response, if we’re verbal processors, it can help to talk to someone who is safe
- What do we do when shame surfaces and we feel like we did something wrong
- We can have strong emotional responses, but it doesn’t mean that we haven’t “worked through” our stuff
- When we have strong emotional responses, we can often attach a negative meaning, but it’s not the truth
- We can feel strong feelings, and still be courageous even if we’re feeling fear
- When we have strong feelings, we often feel like we have to justify why we’re having strong feelings
- Others have a right to invite whomever they want to and they don’t ever have to include us
- Others have a right to post on social media
- There is no right or wrong, and no one is to blame
- If it brings up feelings for us, we get to focus on the healing we need to do
- It’s really important to start talking about these things with safe people who can support us
- No matter what feelings come up (joy, sadness, jealousy, anxiety, depression), all of our feelings are ok
- We need to find ways to honor all the feelings that come up
- We need to get support
- We need to use tools
- We can reflect on the conversation and situation if we need to make sense out of it
- When we get stressed or have things to do, we have our internal “taskmaster” show up
- My “taskmaster” generally lacks empathy and just wants to get stuff done
- It’s also important to talk about how we’re impacted by other’s behavior (if they are safe people that can engage with us)
- It’s really important to talk about our expectations
- We may have a plan, but not communicate it to someone else, and it can cause a rift if we don’t communicate
- There is no right or wrong way of doing things
- If we’re able to communicate; the recommunicate and recommunicate. It’s about going back in and doing what we need to do understand and to be understood
- This is about our imperfection, our humanity, about showing up and being in the messy middle, and not know what the outcome is going to be
- What happens when we have bumps; how do we process; what do we do when we’re having a harder time letting it go
- If someone gives us a “valid” reason when we got hurt, does it mean that we shouldn’t have had a reaction?
- Sometimes we see things as “either, or” then I realized there was another perspective
- Is it ok to NOT want information about a situation where we felt hurt
- I felt like I “should” be open to hearing information, which made me feel guilty, and somewhat anxious, and I doubted myself and felt like I wasn’t doing it “right.”
- We get to choose what we want in our life
- Gremlins will come up for us
- My gremlins told me I shouldn’t be talking about this on a podcast
- Is it wrong to process what goes on for me publicly?
- Is it “worth” it if it helps others?
- I want to model how as deep feelers and thinkers how we go through difficult situations
- When we overdo it, we may feel vulnerable and tend to take things more personally
- We can observe and know that we will come back to balance again
- We will get activated, and it may take time to restore and get our balance again
- Setting limits and boundaries can feel challenging to us, and it may bring up things for us
- We need to trust ourselves; be gentle with ourselves and have lots of self-compassion
- We can trust that we know what’s right for us at that moment
- Give yourself permission to be exactly where you’re at today
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Meetup Saturday October 5, 2019 10 am – noon. Jacaranda Drive between Jacaranda Place and Upas Street at Morley Field. Bring chairs or blankets https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/264665841/
Bonus Episode 54 I Wasn’t Invited; This Sucks! Now What? https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-56/
Bonus Episode 56 I Wasn’t Invited—Follow Up https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-58/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com