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Unapologetically Sensitive

We explore how sensitivity weaves itself into our lives; the richness that it adds, and the strengths we have BECAUSE of our sensitivity--and some of the challenges it poses as well. You may learn to live a bolder, brighter life.

May 9, 2023

The Power of Speaking Up; Boundary-Setting in Therapy and Beyond

How do you navigate ruptures in therapy if the therapist overshares, or does not meet your needs? Rupture and repair are possible. Are there ways to self-disclose in appropriate ways that benefit the client? We share a vignette about therapeutic rupture. As a client, do you know how to bring up concerns to your therapist? As a therapist, are you creating safety for your clients, so they know that you welcome their feedback? If done skillfully, repair work can create a stronger therapeutic bond, and more intimacy.


Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC 


  • Speak up if your therapist violates your boundaries or wastes your time. You have a right to use your voice and say that this behavior was not okay.
  • Consider giving your therapist feedback if they make a mistake or have an off day. This can help repair any ruptures in the therapeutic relationship and strengthen the alliance.
  • Remember that therapy is a partnership, and you have agency in the process. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need or express your feelings.
  • If you're struggling to show up authentically, consider seeking out a therapist or coach who can help you feel safe and supported.
  • If you're a therapist, practice skillful self-disclosure by sharing information in a measured, appropriate, and helpful way that helps your clients feel connected.
  • Be open to discomfort and learning to tolerate it. The goal of therapy is not always to feel better, but to learn how to manage conflict and discomfort in a healthy way.


Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.


Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us


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