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Unapologetically Sensitive

We explore how sensitivity weaves itself into our lives; the richness that it adds, and the strengths we have BECAUSE of our sensitivity--and some of the challenges it poses as well. You may learn to live a bolder, brighter life.

Sep 13, 2022

Managing Emotional Dysregulation Part 2

I share 5 things that happened in a few days that contributed to me being very dysregulated. My wounded parts were showing up in full force.  I share come of the common wounds that come up for people (hopelessness, feeling like you can’t count on others; no one cares, etc.), as well as a long list of tools you can use when you’re feeling out of balance. It’s ok to struggle, and not handle things as well as you’d like.  I talk about when to know if you need additional support, and acknowledging what IS going well.


Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us


  • Why is this happening FOR me vs. Why is this happening TO me?
  • Anxiety was dread of my own daring
  • Is it safe to be me? Will I be rejected?

Tools to use when you’re feeling dysregulated:

  • Simplify things
  • Nap
  • Find what is soothing and restorative
  • Watch familiar shows—it gives your brain a chance to relax
  • Go barefoot
  • Be in water
    • Pool, beach, lake, sprinkler, water balloons, bath, squirt guns, spray bottle
  • Find meditative activities
    • Chopping, sorting, cleaning, gardening, music
  • Reading
  • Gentle movement
  • Talk with a friend
  • Journal
  • Cuddle with pets
  • Cat café
  • Dog park
  • Cry
  • Don’t’ do new things, or go to new places—try and calm your nervous system
  • Cozy clothes that make you feel comfortable and happy
  • Favorite scents
  • Comfort foods
  • Apply lotion
  • Legs up the wall
  • Self-compassion
  • Put your hand on your heart
  • Hold the wounded part
  • Howl
  • Shake
  • Emotions are meant to move
  • Light a candle
  • Set an intention
  • Know that you’re having growing pains

Wounds/beliefs that may come up

  • This has always been this way and it’s never going to change
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Feeling hopeless
  • No one understand me; no one “gets” me
  • I can’t count on anyone
  • I’m alone in this
  • This always happens to me
  • I’m too much; I need to much
  • Wounds spill out
  • Get energized and you’re busy and productive, maybe overfunctioning
  • Dorsal—collapse, helpless, fatigue
  • Feel unlovable
  • Feel unwanted


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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson