Apr 23, 2019
TITLE
Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) & Understanding How to Build Trust and Strengthen Connections
GUEST
Anya Surnitsky, LCSW
EPISODE OVERVIEW
We use Brene Brown’s work on attachment to continue our discussion about security, safety, and steps to building strong relationships. We talk about the marble jar and how trust can be established. We discuss vulnerability and how our needs can be met through connection and intimacy, as well as how to set boundaries to create safety. We include the traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person, and looking through the lens of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).
HIGHLIGHTS
- Braving--the 7 components of trust from Brene Brown's work
- Giving ourselves permission to try and understand, that even though we experienced wounding before, that the new people in our lives won't necessarily be like the old people in our lives
- The Marble Jar method and, how it works in relationship building
- We discuss the importance of being shown by someone that you matter to them
- We talk about the importance of vulnerability
- HSPs often need to have time for transition before and after (work, getting up, arriving home, etc.)
- The importance for HSPs to be fully rested before having difficult conversations, so we are resilient and can be fully present
- We discuss how to check in with yourself; understanding where in your body, you are having reactions, and slowing down before you respond
- We talk about the relationship between Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), wounding, neglect, shame triggers and how to work through these things
- BREATHING --the 7 components of trust as outlined by Brene Brown is explained: Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Fault, Integrity, Non-judgement, and Generosity
Resources
Brene Brown Super Soul Sunday on trust:
http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsessions/brene-brown-what-to-do-when-you-struggle-with-trust
CES Therapy
http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/cranial-electrotherapy-stimulation
BIO
Anya Surnitsky is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in private practice outside Philadelphia, PA. She helps anxious high achievers and overgivers with big wounded hearts to transform their pain into power and avoidance into action.
Anya uses her training in EMDR, Ego State Therapy, and Childhood Emotional Neglect, as well as her certification in The Daring WayTM to aid clients in making peace with the past, embrace the present, and develop confidence for the future. Anya is passionate about educating clients on how trauma and/or neglect affects the developing brain to understand how unhealed wounds from the past show up in the present and can have a negative impact on their future. With these various approaches, Anya shows clients how to heal from both a top-down and a bottom-up approach; we can heal the brain so it can learn to help itself, and we can also learn skills to help ourselves on a conscious level.
Throughout her personal and professional journey, Anya has learned that what people want more than anything is to be seen and heard for who they are at their core. For Unapologetically Sensitive listeners, Anya has put together some scripts for hard conversations to help HSP’s ask to be heard and dare to be seen in their relationships. Go to www.couragecompasstherapy.com/hsp
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PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young, LCSW is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.
LINKS
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HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
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