Sep 26, 2019
TITLE
I Wasn't Invited...there’s more. Sigh….
GUEST
Solo Episode
EPISODE OVERVIEW
Is it ok to NOT want information about a situation that may have
felt hurtful to us? If we continue to have strong feelings about
it, does it mean we’re not healing? Is it possible to feel
uncomfortable, AND be healing at the same time? Do I regret
releasing any of these episodes about the situation? What does
self-compassion have to do with all of this? No matter what
feelings come up, ALL feelings are welcome, and need to be
honored!
HIGHLIGHTS
- How to take care of ourselves when we feel uncomfortable and
not ready
- Is it ok to not pick up your phone when you feel rattled when
someone calls
- I feel like I was 12 years old again. I felt really
anxious
- Feelings of shame, and guilt came up for me, and it was
uncomfortable
- When something happens and we have a strong emotional response,
if we’re verbal processors, it can help to talk to someone who is
safe
- What do we do when shame surfaces and we feel like we did
something wrong
- We can have strong emotional responses, but it doesn’t mean
that we haven’t “worked through” our stuff
- When we have strong emotional responses, we can often attach a
negative meaning, but it’s not the truth
- We can feel strong feelings, and still be courageous even if
we’re feeling fear
- When we have strong feelings, we often feel like we have to
justify why we’re having strong feelings
- Others have a right to invite whomever they want to and they
don’t ever have to include us
- Others have a right to post on social media
- There is no right or wrong, and no one is to blame
- If it brings up feelings for us, we get to focus on the healing
we need to do
- It’s really important to start talking about these things with
safe people who can support us
- No matter what feelings come up (joy, sadness, jealousy,
anxiety, depression), all of our feelings are ok
- We need to find ways to honor all the feelings that come
up
- We need to get support
- We need to use tools
- We can reflect on the conversation and situation if we need to
make sense out of it
- When we get stressed or have things to do, we have our internal
“taskmaster” show up
- My “taskmaster” generally lacks empathy and just wants to get
stuff done
- It’s also important to talk about how we’re impacted by other’s
behavior (if they are safe people that can engage with us)
- It’s really important to talk about our expectations
- We may have a plan, but not communicate it to someone else, and
it can cause a rift if we don’t communicate
- There is no right or wrong way of doing things
- If we’re able to communicate; the recommunicate and
recommunicate. It’s about going back in and doing what we need to
do understand and to be understood
- This is about our imperfection, our humanity, about showing up
and being in the messy middle, and not know what the outcome is
going to be
- What happens when we have bumps; how do we process; what do we
do when we’re having a harder time letting it go
- If someone gives us a “valid” reason when we got hurt, does it
mean that we shouldn’t have had a reaction?
- Sometimes we see things as “either, or” then I realized there
was another perspective
- Is it ok to NOT want information about a situation where we
felt hurt
- I felt like I “should” be open to hearing information, which
made me feel guilty, and somewhat anxious, and I doubted myself and
felt like I wasn’t doing it “right.”
- We get to choose what we want in our life
- Gremlins will come up for us
- My gremlins told me I shouldn’t be talking about this on a
podcast
- Is it wrong to process what goes on for me publicly?
- Is it “worth” it if it helps others?
- I want to model how as deep feelers and thinkers how we go
through difficult situations
- When we overdo it, we may feel vulnerable and tend to take
things more personally
- We can observe and know that we will come back to balance
again
- We will get activated, and it may take time to restore and get
our balance again
- Setting limits and boundaries can feel challenging to us, and
it may bring up things for us
- We need to trust ourselves; be gentle with ourselves and have
lots of self-compassion
- We can trust that we know what’s right for us at that
moment
- Give yourself permission to be exactly where you’re at
today
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and
works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to
understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived
shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about
providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly
appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works
globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also
facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community
and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries,
perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing
emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication
and more).
LINKS
Meetup Saturday October 5, 2019 10 am – noon. Jacaranda
Drive between Jacaranda Place and Upas Street at Morley
Field. Bring chairs or blankets
https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/264665841/
Bonus Episode 54 I Wasn’t Invited; This Sucks! Now What?
https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-56/
Bonus Episode 56 I Wasn’t Invited—Follow Up https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-58/
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com